29-06-2021, 10:59 AM
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Family issues started in my close family it was so upsetting all I could do was listen and support I decided not to become involved and had to keep my own feelings and thoughts out of it . It's still ongoing and still upsetting and I'm still listening but in the end it's down to those connected to sort it out . Life is hard enough as it is and I am distancing myself to protect myself as time goes onMy mum used to say familiarity breeds contempt I never understood its meaning as a young person ....I do now
29-06-2021, 11:38 AM
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Neither myself or Husband would interfere with close family issues unless it was something vital and it seemed it was really needed.My daughter was once in the position of a terrible upset with her Husband and really felt we wanted to sort him out good and truly, over our feelings for what he had done though. She is a very strong minded individual and knew though once the sobbing stopped and her heart did not rule her head, she would want to take control of her own decisions. She laid down new ground rules and it was to be followed or was going to be the finish of them as a couple.
All has been good between them for a few years since.
Now her twin Brother has turned to us for help on a number of occasions and we have helped out but honestly trode very very carefully. We think there is a lot of difference between interfering and assistance but it still can blow up in your face, surely also depends on the individual's personality. Our twins are very much of chalk & cheese.
29-06-2021, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by pauline3
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Also if it’s a family member, would you involve yourself ,if asked?
Maybe close friends too but never if I'm not asked.
I tend to leap in with practical help & leave them to sort the emotional problem out themselves..
29-06-2021, 01:02 PM
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A quick tale. The three wise monkeys can be made to relate to "hear nothing, see , nothing" . Wise courses of action at times.However there is a fourth monkey. The fourth monkey is never around, so he never can be accused of hearing , seeing or communicating with the other three. ( The deaf see, the blind hear and the dumb can write. ) . Be the fourth monkey and choose your company.
I can’t remember where that came from.
29-06-2021, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Vlad
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A quick tale. The three wise monkeys can be made to relate to "hear nothing, see , nothing" . Wise courses of action at times.However there is a fourth monkey. The fourth monkey is never around, so he never can be accused of hearing , seeing or communicating with the other three. ( The deaf see, the blind hear and the dumb can write. ) . Be the fourth monkey and choose your company.
I can’t remember where that came from.
I like that Vlad.
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