Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
I was the DIL had a very rocky start with my MIL few years into my marriage after a particularly difficult day I just sat down with her and said we both love him and have to find a way to get on as this is making him unhappy. We chatted for ages and at the end we were firm friends to the point when she died I think I missed her as much as my husband did as I lost my best friend.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
Thanks so much Julie, yes that is so interesting to hear it from your point of view as well as the DIL. What a lovely story, I think that having an open conversation is such a good way of releasing tension. It is a very tricky relationship - I have two daughters and I know if they were boys I would find it hard to let go!Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
It's difficult when you are having to play down things which seem a bit unfair in order to keep the relationships ok, I have had to let go of ever spending Christmas etc with my son and his wife and they have moved to be near my DIL's parents so see them a lot more.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
Could you sit down like I did Anita and talk to her ? it has to be when no one else is around to make her feel on a level with you. We found we both wanted the best for my husband and just by talking it through realised we had to both make an effort.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
Yes I think that's a good idea Julie, I have suggested it once but I think she doesn't want to, I have to tread very carefully as I don't want to make it worse.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
I can understand that part of our problem was how close I was to my Grandmother, I didn't need another mother but what I did need and what she needed too was to be friends, we were not mother and daughter at all we were friends with one very important thing in common - my husband. You have even more in common having grand children.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
In my case my DIL lives near her Mother and has her sisters also and friends as they now live near where she was brought up.Re: Challenging relationship with a daughter-in-law?
Hello Julia I get on pretty well with my DIL .
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