Re: Sometimes I wish..........
By the sounds of it you need to adopt a different persona for work. Play along with them as you have no option. Make it as false as hell. If they think you are one of them then the pressure will be off. You still have the 'real' you to fall back on. Appease them and feel sorry for them.
I have found in life that nearly every person, if not every person, wants a shoulder to cry on. Even the biggest nastiest person needs a friend. I think maybe I have an advantage over you - perhaps - in that I am very physical. I have worked as a lifeguard for instance and been extremely fit and controlled all sorts of people by quiet intimidation really. I haven't been frightened to put myself on the line and forget all about intellectual stuff and stand up to bullies physically. In fact I use to welcome the thrill and adrenalin rush I got from it. This was enough to break the resolve of every one that attempted to stand up to me and give me trouble yet I am only 5' 7" tall.
A classic example of the above was when a van load of drunken blokes arrived at the swimming pool situated up in the valleys and proceeded to cause havoc. The manager and all the rest of the lifeguards knew who they were but I was new to the pool. I was up the chair in the deep end keeping an eye on things. I took my job very seriously. I could see that there was going to be trouble but when I looked for back up there wasn't any. The manager and all the rest had buggered off - to put it bluntly. I kept watching these big drunken idiots who were hell bent on more or less trashing the place. I stuck it for so long but they ignored my warnings.
They eventually pushed me too far and I got down from the chair and walked up to the whole lot of them and told them to get out. All reason had gone from me at this point and nothing was left but tension and adrenalin. They took one look at me and left. Not one of them had the guts to take it any further. I didn't scream, shout or anything but they knew they had a fight on their hands. Once they had changed and were walking out to the van I appologized for upsetting them. 6-8 drunken blokes that were all bigger than me.
The moral of this story is what? It is that standing up to bullies can bring unforseen and sometimes surprising results. Without my attitude I would have been walked on loads of times but I never have been.
I think the above is relevant as it sounds like you have some ring leaders who are nothing more than bullies. I have found that to be true full stop but you have to have your wits about you and consider all the consequences before acting like me. Would my approach work for you? Dunno but if I was in a similar situation where a work colleague was making my life hell, or he was attempting to, he would probably run for cover at some time or other and be a different person after. Once a bully's spirit is broken they can become good friends surprisingly enough.