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29-02-2016, 03:28 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by malcolm ->
Sure took you some time !
I was deciding whether to lie or not.
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29-02-2016, 03:35 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by Tiffany ->
I would lie if the situation deemed it suitable. Like a request from a dying person, that I couldn't fullfill. Does it matter if that person then died feeling happier? Providing there were no witnesses to the lie that is, of course.
It would matter to me, the request was totally unreasonable, and part of an on going problem.
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29-02-2016, 03:42 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

I don't see any reason to lie to anyone, if the truth is too painful the question can be avoided.

I don't want anyone lying to me, how can I trust their word if they do so I don't lie to anyone either.
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29-02-2016, 03:43 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by Silbee ->
I have a problem with lying, I don't like doing it but there is such a thing as a tactful response. If I can wriggle without causing offence, I will.
For me that's the best answer and it's what I'd do and have done all my life so far because I must be the world's 2nd worst liar - after Pinocchio. stevmk2
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29-02-2016, 03:48 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by Meg ->
I don't see any reason to lie to anyone, if the truth is too painful the question can be avoided.

I don't want anyone lying to me, how can I trust their word if they do so I don't lie to anyone either.
Well said.

If one can avoid a situation where it is either truth or a lie then of course that is best, but if one can't as in the situation I described, then I had to opt for the truth.
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29-02-2016, 03:50 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

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Well said.

If one can avoid a situation where it is either truth or a lie then of course that is best, but if one can't as in the situation I described, then I had to opt for the truth.
I have been in a situation a number of times where I knew a person was dying and was asked some very difficult questions which I managed to answer truthfully without causing distress.
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29-02-2016, 03:54 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by Meg ->
I have been in a situation a number of times where I knew a person was dying and was asked some very difficult questions which I managed to answer truthfully without causing distress.
In my case the answer couldn't be wrapped up, because of the nature of the request.
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29-02-2016, 03:59 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

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In my case the answer couldn't be wrapped up, because of the nature of the request.
If You tell Us what the request was Tarantula..then maybe it would be easier for Us to agree or disagree..meet us halfway
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29-02-2016, 04:07 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by May ->
If You tell Us what the request was Tarantula..then maybe it would be easier for Us to agree or disagree..meet us halfway
It is the general principle I am discussing. I would be wrong to reveal the exact nature of the conversation with my father, and have no intention of doing so.
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29-02-2016, 04:10 PM
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Re: Would you lie to spare someone's feelings?

Originally Posted by tarantula ->
It is the general principle I am discussing. I would be wrong to reveal the exact nature of the conversation with my father, and have no intention of doing so.
Och well..it shall remain a mystery...as will My reply
 
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