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27-07-2021, 11:25 PM
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When somebody Hurts you..friends

I got hurt very recently and I do react very badly..I just fly off the handle at close friends,...just sometimes...most people I know I do not have any issues with...just very close ones...
Just in that hole right now..dig out or just move on?
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27-07-2021, 11:28 PM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Maybe just try and talk it out....
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27-07-2021, 11:39 PM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

If I was your close friend & you had a tendency to fly off the handle with me - sorry Dianne but I wouldn't put up with it. You wouldn't be my close friend for very long!

However - if I had been the close friend that hurt you, then you would be justified to fly off the handle & I hope we would sort it out..
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27-07-2021, 11:47 PM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

no I don't fly off the handle as a norm...it is only when somebody close, floors me, instead of being caring like they usually are....
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27-07-2021, 11:48 PM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Serves them right then.

Leave it a few days - things will seem better then.
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28-07-2021, 01:27 AM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

I never fly off the handle in such situations, just withdraw instead. Just give it a few days (or weeks!) away from them. Life is too short for toxic friendships.
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28-07-2021, 03:09 AM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Originally Posted by carol ->
If I was your close friend & you had a tendency to fly off the handle with me - sorry Dianne but I wouldn't put up with it. You wouldn't be my close friend for very long!

However - if I had been the close friend that hurt you, then you would be justified to fly off the handle & I hope we would sort it out..
I feel exactly the same. Close relationships need patience, compassion and understanding. Respecting boundaries is a must in building trust.
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28-07-2021, 08:56 AM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Get a dog they are more tactful and never take umbrage .
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28-07-2021, 09:20 AM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Solid friendships usually withstand such tests, so I wouldn't get too upset about it Dianne.
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28-07-2021, 09:21 AM
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Re: When somebody Hurts you..friends

Originally Posted by Muddy ->
Get a dog they are more tactful and never take umbrage .
Very true.
 
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