Re: When people don’t talk

I am not saying this in your case.....

I had the same problem,with one of a family members girlfriend.

The more I tried to converse....the more she said nothing...it's a long story....how ever ,...I have since learnt that she was jeleous of my relationship with that family member....

I feel for you,I really do.....I know you love your husband very much.....he loves his daughters,and let's be honest,we do sometimes cover up for our children,..which isn't always a good thing...but if it keeps the peace...at least you don't live with them,Muddy....

My hairdresser has just got married....and her husbands daughters are making her life hell....another long story...

Very difficult when we aren't the natural mother......it's not you,Muddy,just remember that.

That's my opinion of it..what I am reading into it.

My point is..."some" step parents can have it really tough..

Re: When people don’t talk

Agreed.

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Yes it is difficult they are not mine ( mine are very talkative and have an opinion on most things )



I would like to tell them ( but would never I am after all the step mother )look this is not the way to go on .
Neither are married or have boyfriends yet both are quite attractive women .
You have to put something into even casual conversation .

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Of course they should...do you think they are doing it deliberately?...to hurt you.....because let's be honest some do.

Or do you think they are truly introvert?

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And I agree with May, agreeing with Muddy.

Are they always like that with you Muddy, or has something gone wrong just this weekend?

Even if they haven't got much to say, if you don't mind me saying, it's pretty rude not to even walk together surely.
Come on gal, cheer up, you've still got us.

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Sadly, regardless of where they are, some people just simply have nothing to say and nothing to offer. Sometimes it's because they just don't care that you want or need to talk or they don't see why they should. Other times they just don't have the confidence or social skill to make small talk. Similar to when you want or really need somebody to hear what you are saying and you actually say to them "I have something to say and I really need to you to listen": you can say "Do you like to chat?..Do you want to talk or do you prefer not to?"..It might seem overly confronting but why not say that?..At least you both know where you stand.

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I think they are truly introverted
I don’t expect them to like me at all in fact I would prefer not to be here with them and do indeed make sure they have plenty of time alone with their Dad.

They are not children and we would never in a year of Sunday’s have anything in common if I were not married to their father .

The younger one only directs her attention to her dog and to her sister .
I find it weird to be honest .

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They are always like that .
No nothing has gone wrong it’s just the usual .
Yes I did think it was rude and actually asked my husband why they always did this .
He said he doesn’t know .

Thanks for the hug Mups I needed that it’s such a strain .
I think next time they come I will arrange a visit elsewhere.

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I admire you,for keeping the peace.....I know exactly what you mean...

We aren't used to that behaviour..because we are very social human beings.

Some aren't though are they....we just have to live with it,try to understand where they are coming from.....but it's far from easy.and as you say,it's one heck of a strain.....I used to be exhausted after my family members girlfriend left....in fact I was glad to get rid of her...not nice thing to say,,but it's the truth.

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Hi Muddy!

To me, that all suggests that they are holding a grudge.

& ganging up to increase the impact!

Maybe you have to confront them and ask them to fess up?