a back handed treat !

A friend who I'd not seen for a while invited me over for the day to her new home. After coffee she said , " I thought it would be nice to go out for lunch" . She'd been showing me around her beautiful new home and it was beautiful , I was pleased for her .

We went to a lovely garden centre , had a nice lunch and glass of wine , then she got up and said "let's go and pay the bill " , getting to the till I was surprised to find she was expecting me to pay for the meals. I had just enough to pay for mine , then she paid for hers by card.

It was obvious that she thought I'd pay , she had taken no money and reluctantly searched deep in her handbag for her card. In the past I'd often paid ,but I don't have the money that she has , as I'm on state pension , she having just had a large inheritance and husband who earns a good salary.

I honestly thought she was treating me to lunch that day , I'd been invited to her home for the day .

I shall be more aware if I visit her again. If I invite someone to my home then decide to eat out my natural thing is to treat that friend to a meal , not to expect them to treat me.

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Bit rude that IMO. If she invited you then she should pay.

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Flippin" "eck .
She got some nerve, at a "push" [and it would have to be a good push for me], split the bill but to expect you to pay after she had invited to hers for the day is just [pleasant words fail me-- wink].

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Yes I agree with Julie,You were INVITED to Her house for the day and would have expected Her to make lunch at Her home,She decided to eat out so She should have paid..jeeze..some Folk have a brass neck.

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Cheeky cow! Trouble is people with money often can't comprehend that some just don't have any and some folk actually seem to encourage this sort of behaviour and give them treats to encourage friendships.

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How very odd, Susan, I would never treat my friends that way - it is really bad manners.

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I am very wary of anyone suggesting 'let's have lunch together' after my wealthy boss did that .
Knowing we were all paying our own bills myself and the two other 'elderly poor' who were invited had soup, a roll and nothing to drink while our boss had steak with the trimmings and a couple of glasses of wine and pudding.

Instead of each of us paying separately as we anticipated the boss paid the bill and divided the total equally between the 4 of us
None of us three felt we could say anything without looking mean

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Myself and a group of friends regularly meet for nights out and we always divide the cost by the number of people present - but we all know that this is the case, and we always mention it in advance to anyone new who may join us. What happened to Susan is quite beyond the pale. I would be wary of accepting future invitations from that person.

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It is so embarrassing when that happens, Meg.

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Mean ? you would have heard my howling at him from here. That's plain not on !