My sister has fibromyalgia and they give her lots of controlled pain killers, but are they the answer, because they frequently don't work?
This disease is also called Yuppie Flu, possible a derogatory name, but I really believe the illness is caused by the mind. I am not talking rubbish here because many doctors believe that your state of mind can cause pain and tiredness. I often wonder if a lack of endorphins can cause the pain and fatigue .
I have recently had an horrendous chest infection, which is now on the mend, but while I was suffering I noticed pains all over my body, that I had never had before and extreme tiredness. The pains that I felt were nothing to do with my chest infection, but now I am able to breathe easier and relax more they seem to be disappearing.
I think that putting a fancy name on complaints makes people believe they are really ill... which doesn't help, but making life easier and happier for them often makes their pains less, or non existent. Don't forget that pain is your body's way of telling you there is something wrong, but the problem often doesn't come from where you feel the pain.
Doc, try removing some of your partners pressures in life and make a supreme effort to make her happy... then see if her pains are as bad.
This is just a suggestion but it has worked for many people I know.....including myself when I was fighting cancer. Happiness didn't cure my cancer, but my oncologist strongly believes that the positive approach I had to it, significantly contributed to my ability to deal with it..... and so do I.
I would also like to say " well said Tessa" I believe your approach is the best!