16-02-2015, 08:26 PM
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Quandary!
Two friends of mine have just started making cards and asked if they could come for a coffee and some help. They were supposed to come on Thursday - no time specified. I waited in all day, could not settle to do anything - including making lunch! About 5:15pm I had a phone call from them, full of apologies, they had problems and couldn't make it - would Sunday be OK. I said that it would be fine.Yesterday I waited in all day, turned down a lunch invitation, couldn't settle to do anything, and once again they did not turn up and this time there has been no phone call and these are people who would have to have their mobile phones surgically removed!!
They are also the kind of good friends who would give anyone their last penny.
Do I phone them and tell them that I am hurt and angry?
Do I just ignore it and become amazingly busy next time they want to visit?
16-02-2015, 08:31 PM
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Oh, that is so bad, very bad manners there I would be hurt but also really angry. If they phone to apologise I would say 'Oh heavens, were you due to come over Sunday, I completely forgot and went out, so glad you didn't call'
I would certainly be far too busy to accommodate them next time, too!
16-02-2015, 08:34 PM
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Re: Quandary!
Originally Posted by Silver Tabby
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Two friends of mine have just started making cards and asked if they could come for a coffee and some help. They were supposed to come on Thursday - no time specified. I waited in all day, could not settle to do anything - including making lunch! About 5:15pm I had a phone call from them, full of apologies, they had problems and couldn't make it - would Sunday be OK. I said that it would be fine.Yesterday I waited in all day, turned down a lunch invitation, couldn't settle to do anything, and once again they did not turn up and this time there has been no phone call and these are people who would have to have their mobile phones surgically removed!!
They are also the kind of good friends who would give anyone their last penny.
Do I phone them and tell them that I am hurt and angry?
Do I just ignore it and become amazingly busy next time they want to visit?
Actions speak louder than words ST! stevmk2
16-02-2015, 08:46 PM
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Re: Quandary!
Hi ST
I would contact the people in question and ask if everything was alright because you understood they were coming on Sunday but they failed to arrive and you were a bit concerned .Then next time if they wanted to come I would say it wasn't convenient.
This way you will let them know they let you down and avoid another visit.
16-02-2015, 10:40 PM
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I would wait and give them a third chance, if they break the third appointment I would tell them the whole thing is off..for good. Then you could say you gave them three chances, nothing could be fairer than that, you will come out on top because you didn’t get angry (you did but they don't know that) at any stage and you can still be the best of friends. Revenge is not always the best option, I'm for the 'It could happen to a bishop twice' way, the forgive and forget way.
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