13-02-2021, 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Artangel
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My post was merely an observation. I was not targeting anyone in particular l was just generalising. So there’s no need for anyone to get paranoid! This is what l mean about goody goody huggers. Their caring is on ‘their terms’ and they tend to cherry pick who they will give their ‘care’ to.
Caring for someone who needs someone doesn’t end at a hug. The other person should be there for them beyond the hug.
Yes, ok the phone call is probably inconvenient at times. Yes, the conversation might be mundane and boring but what’s wrong in expanding the conversation and not get annoyed with the person. They are probably very lonely and haven’t opened their mouth for days to utter a word to another human..
Well your wings certainly shine brightly today, Artangel.
So with all your copious caring, how about when you know full well I live alone, was whisked off to hospital by ambulance last week, and have been in a severe pain ever since, yet there has not so much as a simple " Hope you feel better soon" mentioned?
It is kinder to sit there and pick holes instead, ey.
I am leaving this thread now as I admit I am both very annoyed and very hurt at your repeated digs at me under the guise of 'merely observing.'
13-02-2021, 10:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Mups
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Well your wings certainly shine brightly today, Artangel.So with all your copious caring, how about when you know full well I live alone, was whisked off to hospital by ambulance last week, and have been in a severe pain ever since, yet there has not so much as a simple " Hope you feel better soon" mentioned?
It is kinder to sit there and pick holes instead, ey.
I am leaving this thread now as I admit I am both very annoyed and very hurt at your repeated digs at me under the guise of 'merely observing.'
The member did contact you but l was told you distinctly requested me not to mention it, so l respected your wishes and didn’t say a word.
I also was told your son and his wife were involved and someone was taking care of your dogs.
On the other hand, why didn’t you contact me and thank me for noticing and caring that you hadn’t been about for a few days?
Please stop accusing me of getting at you as l am not, l am commenting on a thread.
14-02-2021, 01:04 AM
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Originally Posted by Mups
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So with all your copious caring, how about when you know full well I live alone, was whisked off to hospital by ambulance last week, and have been in a severe pain ever since,
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I knew nothing of this Mups.
I'm so sorry you're in pain. Get better soon.x
14-02-2021, 09:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Artangel
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I don’t understand? Many members on here profess to be caring and will always stop and hug lonely people and chat to them..
Yet if the same lonely people ring you up, you don’t want to talk to them!
lt’s a funny old world!
Except Mr M of course I shall give him a nice hug it is Valentine’s Day after all.
14-02-2021, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Artangel
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I don’t understand? Many members on here profess to be caring and will always stop and hug lonely people and chat to them..
Yet if the same lonely people ring you up, you don’t want to talk to them!
lt’s a funny old world!
no lonely people telephone me, some people who don't live alone automatically assume I live alone so must lonely and that I need to get a phone call . They tend to phone when I have just settled down to watch something on the TV, sit down to a meal that has taken ages to prepare or stepped into the shower.
The only people I hug are close family and I haven't hugged them for over a year. I give more virtual hugs on here than to people in 'real life' I am not comfortable with strangers touching me.
Dogs are a different matter, I will hug any old dog
I used to have a friend, an alcoholic who would ring me in a semi drunken stupor and be on the phone for hours. I never got chance to say more than 2 words because she wanted to rant about her family not chat to me. I used to put the phone on one side and go and do something else then come back and she was still ranting.
She died a few years ago, the same person who wrote into her will that her daughters (who were due to inherit her millions under a family trust) should not be informed of her death until after her funeral.
14-02-2021, 01:20 PM
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Meg, I have many times settled down with my evening meal in front of the telly, answered the phone and then spent the entire conversation eating with a fork in one hand. True, I should have left it (I know who is calling, my phone gives a voice alert), but that person normally knows I am home evenings. I try to say I’ve just sat down with my meal but they invariably want to carry on chatting.
14-02-2021, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Artangel
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It’s when your friends don’t ring you that you should worry!I feel ever so sorry for the woman with the cat. She sounds so lonely and all she has is her cat to talk to.
In a different time she might be quite interesting but at the moment, what else does she have to talk about if she never leaves the house?
ST, give her my number and l will chat to her!
Originally Posted by Artangel
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I don’t understand? Many members on here profess to be caring and will always stop and hug lonely people and chat to them..
Yet if the same lonely people ring you up, you don’t want to talk to them!
lt’s a funny old world!
Originally Posted by Artangel
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My post was merely an observation. I was not targeting anyone in particular l was just generalising. So there’s no need for anyone to get paranoid! This is what l mean about goody goody huggers. Their caring is on ‘their terms’ and they tend to cherry pick who they will give their ‘care’ to.
Caring for someone who needs someone doesn’t end at a hug. The other person should be there for them beyond the hug.
Yes, ok the phone call is probably inconvenient at times. Yes, the conversation might be mundane and boring but what’s wrong in expanding the conversation and not get annoyed with the person. They are probably very lonely and haven’t opened their mouth for days to utter a word to another human..
This is what I find irritating.
Folk highlighting in the middle of a pandemic about the suffering of others, in whatever capacity. Cue the bandwagon of the faux caring brigade who under normal times, never lift a finger to help alleviate others' sufferings.
Hello???? It goes on 24/7 every day of every year. The pandemic has heightened what already exists.
Suffering isn't just for pandemics - like dogs aren't just for Christmas.
Art, you've had the whole of your life to do something for others, not just in the middle of a pandemic - which is a year on now BTW, so you've had plenty of time to do something if you care so much.
But wait - the volunteer forms are too intrusive you say, so you won't do it. Which does rather speak volumes about how truly caring one might or might not be.
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