19-08-2019, 06:41 PM
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Re: Personality not looks
Originally Posted by tarantula
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Surely it is personality which should count, not looks when forming a relationship? It is beyond my understanding that many women tart themselves up to attract a guy just because he is what they consider good looking, not taking into consideration whether he is a decent sort of person. No wonder so many relationship bite the dust very quickly when reality imposes itself. A lot of lads tried to come on to me when I was young without any encouragement on my part. I dislike wearing make up or 'pretty' clothes, and have always dressed to please myself not the male of the species. Even when I met my husband I made no effort to attract him, he either liked me for who I am, or not. Apparently he did find the person I am to his liking and although we aren't lovey dovey or romantic we have stuck it out all these years, it obviously worked for us.
No way would I ever have been seen with an ugly man! I was far too much a vain and shallow princess for that. Besides, I had six of the best looking brothers in Town, what would that have said if I walked into the Youth club or the coffee house with an ugly man! I would have been treated like Cinderella and laughed out. Isn't that truly cruel, but that was life when I was young.
19-08-2019, 07:06 PM
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Re: Personality not looks
Originally Posted by tarantula
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Surely it is personality which should count, not looks when forming a relationship? It is beyond my understanding that many women tart themselves up to attract a guy just because he is what they consider good looking, not taking into consideration whether he is a decent sort of person. No wonder so many relationship bite the dust very quickly when reality imposes itself. A lot of lads tried to come on to me when I was young without any encouragement on my part. I dislike wearing make up or 'pretty' clothes, and have always dressed to please myself not the male of the species. Even when I met my husband I made no effort to attract him, he either liked me for who I am, or not. Apparently he did find the person I am to his liking and although we aren't lovey dovey or romantic we have stuck it out all these years, it obviously worked for us.
We are all individuals who have our own wants & needs, yet the majority of us prefer to be with somebody we find attractive.
You may be different to the majority, but none of us are telling you that you chose by the wrong method! Some attractive people have great personalities, just as some less attractive people do, but isn't forming a personal relationship a personal thing, where we all make our own choice?
19-08-2019, 07:56 PM
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Men and women who say 'It's not looks that count, it's personality,' I guarantee have attractive spouses or partners.But sometimes very good looking men choose plain looking women who can cook and spend much of their lives in the Kitchen, pandering to Mr Wonderful, as they know that there will be no competition in the admiration stakes.
These women are eternally grateful to be the chosen one.
However a real woman plain or otherwise, would show him where the Chip Pan was.
19-08-2019, 08:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Muddy
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Do you really think men chose a woman on the basis of her cooking ?
Some men want to match their Mother's cooking.
I know a such a man and he definitely chose a good cook for his wife.
He would never stray as she fills him full of Steak and Kidney Pudding, and Suet Jam Roly Poly.
The poor man can't move afterwards.
19-08-2019, 11:50 PM
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My story is as corny as can be. From the first date with the woman who is now my wife 33 years ago I knew she was "the one" ONe of the reasons I knew was that I just had such a great time in her company. I'd had "successful" (Make of that what you will) first dates before but none of them came close to ours. There was no sex or anything like that. We just talked and laughed, ate great food and listened to great jazz all night. Sure she was, and still is a very attractive woman physically, but it was her lovely personality, sense of humour and wisdom beyond her years that bowled me over from that first night. She says she felt the same. After thirty three years, I think I can believe her.
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