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08-11-2018, 02:24 PM
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Attention seeking people

You know the ones, they start singing loudly at concerts. They take over a situation.
They barge in on private conversations and dominate. How do you handle them?
Walk away, or ignore?
Tell them to behave?
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08-11-2018, 02:26 PM
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I walk away and ignore SP...these kind of people irritate the hell out of me. I dont give them houseroom in my life.
There are "fountains and drains" in life and I like to fill mine with "fountains"
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08-11-2018, 02:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Aysa ->
I walk away and ignore SP...these kind of people irritate the hell out of me. I dont give them houseroom in my life.
There are "fountains and drains" in life and I like to fill mine with "fountains"
Very wise words Aysa.
Why do they do it?
I cannot fathom it out.
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Re: Attention seeking people

Originally Posted by Sweetie pie ->
You know the ones, they start singing loudly at concerts. They take over a situation.
They barge in on private conversations and dominate. How do you handle them?
Walk away, or ignore?
Tell them to behave?
I would tend to either walk away or ignore them SP.
hoping that someone else would tell them to behave!
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08-11-2018, 02:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Aysa ->
I walk away and ignore SP...these kind of people irritate the hell out of me. I dont give them houseroom in my life.
There are "fountains and drains" in life and I like to fill mine with "fountains"
Oh how brilliantly put. I choose fountains also.

Originally Posted by Sweetie pie ->
Very wise words Aysa.
Why do they do it?
I cannot fathom it out.
I think trying to figure out “‘why’ people do what they do” is enough to drive anyone nuts. We don’t always have to analyze people and wonder why they do things. That’s enough to drive anyone nuts. I think people in general do things the way they do because it works for them. If it didn’t work for them then they would stop doing it.

The best thing to do, in my opinion; (not that I’m any better at dealing with it) is to either accept them as is , or ignore them.
We can’t go around changing people to suite our own needs and wants nor can we throw them in a room and lock the door.

Besides which I think we are all attention seekers to a certain extent or we wouldn’t be here on a community site talking to others. It’s not an insult. Just a logical fact to consider.
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08-11-2018, 03:00 PM
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I try to accept people as they are, you can't change them only how you react to them. Some people get a bit overexcited in company I always think they might be a bit lonely and over compensating for that.

I agree with bratti about forums, if we weren't a bit attention seeking we wouldn't be here
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08-11-2018, 03:10 PM
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Re: Attention seeking people

When training puppies you ignore bad behaviour and don't reward it with attention. I tend to do the same with attention seeking humans these days .


Originally Posted by Bratti ->
Besides which I think we are all attention seekers to a certain extent or we wouldn’t be here on a community site talking to others.
I am afraid I don't agree with that Bratti I joined our sister site 'Dogweb' many years ago not to 'seek attention' but having spent almost a lifetime working with and owning dogs to try to help and advise other less experienced owners. Many of us there joined for the same reason.

This site was set up as a kind of extension to our sister sites, as a place where people could chat and share common interests not as a platform for attention seekers .
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08-11-2018, 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Julie1962 ->
I try to accept people as they are, you can't change them only how you react to them. Some people get a bit overexcited in company I always think they might be a bit lonely and over compensating for that.

I agree with bratti about forums, if we weren't a bit attention seeking we wouldn't be here


Sorry Julie (and Bratti), but I can't connect with that idea at all.

I really don't see what chatting to friends for a bit of company, plus some humour, and even interesting threads, has to do with being an "Attention seeker?"

I honestly don't think I seek attention, and never have, in fact I'm pretty quiet in 'real life'.
I just enjoy a bit of company sometimes.
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08-11-2018, 03:24 PM
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I think people put up with them for a time but eventually ignore them. It's much easier that way. There is a difference between seeking a bit of attention and being disruptive or nasty.
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Rentagobs?...I give 'em a body swerve and a withering dirty look..that'll teach 'em to out-sing/out-talk Moi...cheek!
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