09-07-2014, 11:45 PM
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Re: Viewing a deceased relative
Originally Posted by Honey
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that's a positive way to look at it CC!
10-07-2014, 02:09 AM
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Hi, I am new to the board and this is my first post. I lost my mother 6/12, almost a month ago to a long battle with ovarian cancer. My mother had a great sense of humor and would make jokes to me and my sister asking what would we do if we found her dead. My sister laughingly said she would sit out side and wait for the funeral home to pick up the body. I said I didn't know how I would respond but hoped it would never happen. Well, the day before she passed I was contacted by Hospice and told she had hours to live. I took the next flight out and arrived approx. 6 hours before my mother passed. It was nothing like I expected. She looked terrible when I first saw her. Her eyes had a fixed stare and her breathing patterns changed. I will spare you all the details only to say after she passed like another poster said, she had a smile and appeared to have been at peace. Only me and my son were present. He had never experienced anyone anything like this before but like me was GRATEFUL to have been there and was able to say my final goodbye's to her. What a precious gift that was given to us on that day. Having said the death of a loved one is traumatic and like you, the experience plays over again and again in my mind usually at bed time. I can tell you that I will get better and in time you wont have the memories of your loved one in a dead state that will come to mind when you think of them. These unfavorable memories are temporary and will pass in time as any other traumatic experience will.Thanks for allowing me to share.
12-07-2014, 01:09 PM
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Normally in my family, we didn't ''view'' the deceased..Then having moved to the South of France..it was virtually frowned upon if you didn't do so..
One thing that I did was remember that this person was once alive..loved..laughed..cried..Just the same as I do now..
12-07-2014, 03:27 PM
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It's not for everyone but it was right for me, I'm glad I seen mum in the funeral home, no more pain etched in her face, she looked serene and finally at peace, it helped me a lot as I didn't want the memories of her in agony to be the last thought of her, now I have good memories and the pain of losing her is lessening slowly
12-07-2014, 03:40 PM
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Originally Posted by lilac
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My mother always said that..Another thing I have always wondered about..Why is it that when you are dead..you suddenly become scary/evil?
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