Re: Am I being unfair?
Re: Am I being unfair?
The home is quite a nice one,there is a conservatory we usually sit in where we can be private, the staff bring tea and biscuits,there is also a garden when the weather is nice,true a lot of the residents sit and doze,but there is usually something going on for them ,a quiz,exercise,sing along.But as you say maybe it makes my friend upset and see her future,only its easier when there are two of us to find something to talk aboutRe: Am I being unfair?
Re: Am I being unfair?
Maybe your friend could write a short chatty letter for you to take with you. He would then not feel that he is being forgotten by her. It doesn't have to be pages long, just enough to let him know what she has been doing and that she is thinking of him.Re: Am I being unfair?
Interesting views here,The reason I get upset is because I feel for the man,if my friend doesnt come he asks about her ,so what do I say ? Last time I just said she couldnt come and left it there , but I wont be able to keep saying that.It is no use her writing a note to him as his eyesight is not good. When my SIL went into a home my nephew said people stopped visiting her,I dont want this to happen to my dear old friendRe: Am I being unfair?
I spoke to my friend today and the subject came up, I said to her that I am going to make a regular time to visit him,I said I dont like seeing him there but I dont want him to think wed forgotten him ,my friend just replied that she isnt forgetting him. I think a lot of her she is a caring person but will not put herself out to do something she does not want to do [ Do it later type,] she doesnt seem to realise she could be upsetting the old man, as ,in her mind she will go ' sometime.' She is not a deep thinker either.I feel so frustrated as I dont want him hurt ,but it seems I can do nothingRe: Am I being unfair?
I'm sorry you're having this problem.
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