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I was wondering about avatars.

Is there any reason why so many of our members don't want to show their face?

I just think it's nice to see who you're talking to.

Surely one little picture isn't going to jeopardise their internet safety?
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23-05-2019, 11:24 PM
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I've said things on here about people I know. Because I'm not identified I can say what I think. I would not speak my mind if I were identifiable. We are too relaxed about sharing our identity in a world that is hungry for just that.
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Carol I don't as I don't want you to have restless nights dreaming of me
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23-05-2019, 11:45 PM
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Originally Posted by carol ->
I was wondering about avatars.

Is there any reason why so many of our members don't want to show their face?

I just think it's nice to see who you're talking to.

Surely one little picture isn't going to jeopardise their internet safety?
In my case it started as a bit of a gag fourteen years ago when I started using forums such as this. I've used my particular avatar in it's various forms ever since.
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23-05-2019, 11:58 PM
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Excellent question, Carol

I understand why some people are so terrified about showing their face. Some are maybe professional people such as teachers, doctors, lawyers etc. Others may be going through a divorce or perhaps they are posting on here incognito and don't want their OH's knowing (for some reason).

Those folk have their reasons and there is nothing wrong with that. It's the others that unnerve me. What's the secrecy? Why are they wanting to be so mysterious? We're not going to steal your image for a passport are we?
And to be perfectly honest, who can trust people in an honest fashion if they are not open enough to show us what they look like? I cannot take somebody to be completely genuine if they don't I'm afraid.

Others will freely post many images of themselves out and about without a care in the world and to me that shows that they are ordinary likeable folk.
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24-05-2019, 12:02 AM
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Originally Posted by AnnieS ->
I've said things on here about people I know. Because I'm not identified I can say what I think. I would not speak my mind if I were identifiable. We are too relaxed about sharing our identity in a world that is hungry for just that.
But people may find you more honest and talk to you more freely if you were more personable, Annie?

I see people with photos of strange mathematical diagrams as their avatar and think to myself "I could never trust this person, he's not genuine".

It's only your face, so why on earth not let's see it?
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24-05-2019, 12:12 AM
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Originally Posted by Floydy ->
Excellent question, Carol

I understand why some people are so terrified about showing their face. Some are maybe professional people such as teachers, doctors, lawyers etc. Others may be going through a divorce or perhaps they are posting on here incognito and don't want their OH's knowing (for some reason).

Those folk have their reasons and there is nothing wrong with that. It's the others that unnerve me. What's the secrecy? Why are they wanting to be so mysterious? We're not going to steal your image for a passport are we?
And to be perfectly honest, who can trust people in an honest fashion if they are not open enough to show us what they look like? I cannot take somebody to be completely genuine if they don't I'm afraid.

Others will freely post many images of themselves out and about without a care in the world and to me that shows that they are ordinary likeable folk.
Ahh, but what about those that have a pic of a face for their avatar and we believe itís them, when it isnít?
Maybe, they are worse than someone who doesnít show a pic?
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24-05-2019, 12:21 AM
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You are what you post, not what your avatar is. People can judge what kind of person you are by the way you present yourself in your writing.
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24-05-2019, 12:29 AM
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Ahh, but what about those that have a pic of a face for their avatar and we believe itís them, when it isnít?
Maybe, they are worse than someone who doesnít show a pic?
Who would do that and why, I just don't see the purpose of that, Art?
Obviously we know somebody doesn't look like a cat for instance, but who has an avatar of another person. That's just bewildering isn't it?
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24-05-2019, 12:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Judd ->
You are what you post, not what your avatar is. People can judge what kind of person you are by the way you present yourself in your writing.
Not really Judd. I'm much more comfortable knowing what a person looks like when I'm talking to them. That's why the internet will never take the place of having a real life conversation where you can see a person's mannerisms etc.
But until we get "virtual avatars" which would be like a video link, we can only have pleasant chit chat.
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